Acquire Wisdom and Live With Passion
#1 Stop Procrastinating- whether it’s a project for school, report for work, re-organizing the kid’s bedroom, taking that trip, starting that home reno, or getting the pooch to the salon – Sometimes “tomorrow I’ll do it” turns into, next week, next month, next year. I always ask one of my friends when he plans on quitting smoking, implying to “star”t immediately. He always replies with a “tomorrow”, or “in a couple weeks” well… He’s been saying this for 6 years now! All we have is TODAY people! Just DO IT!
“You may delay, but time will not!” Benjamin Franklin
#2 Forgive, Forgive, Forgive- Don’t hold onto stale emotions. We all have memories and feelings that run through us, play in our minds like a broken record, going round and round like a hamster on his wheel – turning even a bit crazy. Be bold and give out your forgiveness like candy on Halloween night – ask for forgiveness, forgive yourself, forgive the weather for breaking that tree, forgive your dog for leaving chocolate patties for you this morning, forgive the waitress for bringing you maki sushi instead of those beautiful hand rolls you ordered – forgive , forgive , forgive!! I just recently wrote someone a letter asking for their forgiveness – I hadn’t seen or heard from her since high school which was years ago. She wrote back with such heart felt words – saying she was very touched by my letter and she of course forgave me. I had already forgiven myself, but I had to make it known to her that I cared and still thought about it – now, I can totally put the past behind me – and leave it there. There’s no reason for it to surface again!
“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover the prisoner was you” Lewis B Smedes
#3 Don’t be afraid to speak up- Don’t wait for others to speak before you. Sometimes situations may be uncomfortable and new, or you just think what you have to say is wrong or down right silly and not worth mentioning. Erase that mind set – wipe it clean! Your opinions matter and nothing can be more silly than not saying anything at all. Don’t be afraid to speak your mind – communication is so important in order to get what we want out of life. If you feel ripped off – make it known! If you feel cheated, heck, make.it.known – If you feel loved loved and grateful, MAKE IT KNOWN.
“Confidence comes from not always being right but from not fearing to be wrong” Peter T.Mcintyre
#4 Don’t follow the leader - The leader is not you, nor is the group following. We are ALL unique and therefore have all kinds of custom thought up dreams and wishes for ourselves. Society is like an imaginary hand pushing us down all these paths, highways and bumpy roads that IT believes we should travel down. The world around us is a socially constructed way of life – this does not mean what you see is the right way to live – take advantage of the fact you are FREE and don’t succumb to this imaginary hand’s push down paths that maybe, you just don’t want to go down. Simple as that. Do what YOU want to do – not what others want you to do – others being society, parents, friends. Be proud you are unique and when you stray off that path – again, be proud, it takes some courage!
“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the biggest accomplishment” Ralph Waldo Emerson
#5 – Don’t expect perfection – instead expect a sense of accomplishment whether good or bad. What’s important is not you being the best, but that you’ve set out to do something and DID IT !
“Some of us fuss so much over making the right choice , but in life, all that is really needed is to take any ‘good’ choice, believe in it, go through with it, and accept the consequences” – Unknown
#6 Don’t be afraid of the L word -Don’t be afraid to say “I love you” especially if you’re a parent - if you are, tell your kids you love them, now! today!- if it makes you uncomfortable , so what!? If you think they “know already” by your actions – still, tell them! Look them in the eyes and say the 3 words…It beats anything you could ever imagine doing for them. Eventually it will feel natural for you to match how you’re feeling with your words. I know first hand how powerful and life changing it is to hear a parent express love with using even just 3 words. It’s fertilizer that will allow your kid to grow in beautiful ways… better ways than he/she would have without. Love is the reason for our existence.
#7 – Don’t be afraid of the gaps – if you’re feeling idle, it’s because something needs to be brought to the surface, recognized, noticed. Stop focusing on what you don’t want/have/like. Take time to be silent. Just stop the daily buzz of madness. Sometimes through the madness we forget there’s a soul within that needs attention and nurturing. Wonderful realizations, ideas, and feelings can come from simply sitting calmly with no direct intention in mind other than to simply BE.
“It’s the space between the bars, that holds the lion.”
#8 Don’t bite off more than you can chew – Take only what you need. Take on only what you can handle. Don’t over burden yourself with tasks and goals that add up to be just too much for your to handle. We are only human, not machine – nobody expects anybody to grow wings and fly. To forge ahead would be inviting stress and anxiety along for the ride – which may result in not completing a task, or leaving one full of holes. Ask for help if you need it! It’s the only way you can grow to be successful in your endeavors.Asking for help also allows someone else to be helpful. Think of and research anyone you deem successful and see how much help they’ve received to get to where they are.
“It’s not the load that breaks you down; it’s the way you carry it” Lena Horne